I hear so many people talk about regrets and would a, could a, should a moments in their lives. What is odd about the times where I hear these regrets mentioned, they are normally around times of little importance in the scheme of things. Such as "You didn't order the large piece of pie? You are going to regret that later." Or, "You didn't download the latest album on the day that it came out, you are going to regret that." Or "I really regret not going to the party last night, everybody was there."
When you are laying on your deathbed, these will probably not be moments you will look back upon with regret. In fact these will be moments you probably will not remember next week, or next year. In fact there are very few things like that you will ever really look back on with regret. Although it would be amusing to hear. "In my life, my greatest regret was not buying that silk tie I saw on sale that one day back in 2010.. gasp.. sigh."
But what about the things you will actually regret? I was thinking about this the other day when I heard a Doctor on TV talking about different ways to treat depression and other stress related illnesses. What they never discussed was making small changes, everything revolved around medications and therapy. Which made me think "why am I happy and they are not, it cannot always be a physiological issue." Then it hit me. I have tried to live my life without acquiring regrets. Don't get me wrong, I have missed out on things in my life, but what I mean is the things I can control. Let me give you some ideas of what I mean.